Dont Regret Relapses

We've all been there.

After having lots of new growth, and our bald spots were recovering, and our lashes started to grow, we pulled them all out. We were so anxious, so stressed, some situation or emotion caused us to rip it all out, and we sit there, crying and regretting what we had just done, thinking to ourself "What have I done, I have ruined everything."

Relapses are not bad. Relapses teach us what it feels like to stall recovery. Relapses make us feel like crap, no doubt. Why bother trying now? Its all gone to shit anyway.

No it hasn't. Relapsing is part of the recovery process. We all have this distorted image in our heads, that recover is pulling less and less, and resisting more and more, until we have beautiful lashes and wonderful thick hair.

Im sorry to tell you, but thats bull.

Recovery includes relapsing, and guilt, and remose. Relapsing includes everything we feel after having a pull episode. We all try and avoid relapsing, but the truth is, no one can really prevent it.

We think that relapsing brings us back to square one, to restart the entire process. It doesn't. Even though our hairs are back to what they were when we started recovering, doesnt mean the recovery process itself has to start over.

The point here is to break the pattern.

Instead of thinking "Pulling is bad, dont pull" you should think more along the lines of "I have a choice. I can pull, but if I pull, I will lose hair that is regrowing. If I dont pull, then those hairs will continue to grow and just might even save a few more".

I had a relapse a few weeks ago, and I am still recovering from it. Its a shitty feeling because it takes only a few minutes to cause enough damage that takes months to repair.

On the bright side, its growing. Its not all back, and I still have to hide it, but its growing. My hair is longer than it was yesterday, and it will be even longer tomorrow.